CATHOLIC CHASTITY RESOURCE LIST FOR PARENTS:

RAISING PURE CHILDREN

 

 

INTRODUCTORY NOTES

 

This resource list was compiled in the hopes that it may be of assistance to parents who wish to protect the purity of their children and strengthen them in the virtue of chastity in the midst of a culture which seems to be bent on making that impossible.  A wide variety of resources are included, with every effort to ensure that they are in full harmony with the magisterial teaching of the Catholic Church.  While most of the resources are modern , a few are from many decades ago.   At times, the language may feel a bit antiquated, but for those who have eyes to see and ears to hear, there are gems of wisdom to be found.  Some of the ideas may seem quite foreign in our current culture, but might I suggest that when it comes to sexual morality, we are foreigners, members of the Kingdom of Heaven, living in a culture that has utterly forgotten the King, at least in this area of life.  There are also plenty of newer resources, too, most notably those influenced by Blessed John Paul II and his monumental work , The Theology of the Body, which many anticipate will have a transforming effect on the world for centuries to come.

 

 

 

 

TABLE OF CONTENTS

 

FOLLOWING RESOURCES WERE PRIMARY SOURCES FOR RECOMMENDED MATERIALS

 

PARENTS: LEARNING THE PRINCIPLES

 

PARENTS: HOW TO TEACH YOUR CHILDREN

 

PARENTS: MATERIALS TO USE FOR TEACHING YOUR CHILDREN

 

FOR TEENS AND YOUNG ADULTS

 

CONFERENCES/RETREATS FOR TEENS AND YOUNG ADULTS

 

FOR YOUNGER CHILDREN

 

MEDIA (Movies, TV, music, games)

 

TECHNOLOGY (Internet, Cell Phones, etc.)

 

WEBSITES WITH MULTIPLE RESOURCES

 

MORE EXHAUSTIVE RESOURCE LISTS and PRODUCT SOURCE

 

 

 

FOLLOWING RESOURCES WERE PRIMARY SOURCES FOR RECOMMENDED MATERIALS

(note that letters in parenthesis appear after many resources in list)

 

(CA) Catholic Answers

Catholic Answers Store

Youth and  Young Adult page

Parenting page

Chastity page

 

(CHC) Catholic Heritage Curricula

Sexuality page in catalog:

(EB) Emmanuel Books

Purity page in catalog:

 

(EWTN) EWTN Religious Catalog

Children's section: Loads of books on the saints and the sacraments, etc.

Teens/Young Adults section

Children's Multimedia section

Marriage section

Morals section

 

(FLC) Family Life Center International: Faith and Family

Courtship page

Children page in store.

Sex Education page in store.

Teenagers page in store.

Young Adults and Singles in store.

 

(IP) Ignatius Press

Sexuality page

Marriage and Family page

 

(MTH) Michele TePas Harrison. Catholic homeschooling mother of four young children. Professional Catholic chastity speaker. http://www.YouthApostles.com  (Mary Wagner's sister!)

 

(OFW)  Our Father's Will Communications  Books and media sales from the TheologyoftheBody.net

 

(SEM)  Seton Educational Media

Family Resources page

 

 

 

 

 

 

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PARENTS: LEARNING THE PRINCIPLES

We can't teach what we don't know and live!

(Be sure to read teen resources, too.)

 

See separate resource list at  

“Online Resources for the Study of a Catholic Perspective on Human Sexuality

 

 

 

 

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PARENTS:  HOW TO TEACH YOUR CHILDREN

 

OFFICIAL CHURCH TEACHING

 

Catechism of the Catholic Church (online version) Especially sections on Matrimony par. 1601-1666;  The Family par. 2201-2233; The Sixth Commandment, par. 2231-2400; The Ninth Commandment, par. 2514-2533

 

Pontifical Council for the Family. Truth and Meaning of Human Sexuality (Guidelines for Education Within the Family) (Recommended by MTH)

 

***A Parent's Guide: Teaching the Truth and Meaning of Human Sexuality.  (DVD)  Aired on EWTN. See video clip at this web site.   (Recommended by MTH)

 

K.D. Whitehead  "Sex Education – New Vatican Guidelines"  Clear reflection on and summary of  principles of Truth and Meaning of Human Sexuality

 

"Guidelines for Sex Education"  A summary of key points of "Truth and Meaning of Human Sexuality: Guidelines for Education Within the Family"

 

Sacred Congregation for Catholic Education.  Educational Guidance in Human Love. (See especially par. 48-52)

 

 

OTHER AUTHORS

 

Jason and Crystalina Evert  (Leading Catholic voice in communicating to youth about chastity.)

 

Parents of Teens: Here's What You Need to Know (DVD) (Recommended by CA, EWTN)

 

Jason Evert .  How to Talk to Your Teens About Chastity (CD) (Recommended by CA)

 

Find more by the Everts by doing an author search Ascension Press and Catholic Answers.

 

Mary Beth Bonacci and  Dr. Tom Curran.  Taking a Stand: Helping Our Kids Win the Battle for Sexual Purity. (DVD series)

 

Dr. Miriam Grossman.  You're Teaching My Child What?  A physician exposes the lies of sex education and how they harm your child.

               "You're Teaching My Child What?"  (a talk by Miriam Grossman)

 

Kimberly Hahn.  Biblical Wisdom for Parenting Teens and Young Adults.  Book. DVD series.

 

Sheree Whitters Havlik. Because We Love Them: Fostering a Christian Sexuality in Our Children. (BOOK) (Recommended by CHC)

 

Lay Witness. "Chastity Begins at Home Parental Rights and Chastity Education".  What are the rights and duties of parents when it comes to chastity education? How can they effectively resolve their concerns regarding chastity education programs at a parish or school in a constructive manner?

 

Connie Marshner. "Where Has Healthy Romance Gone for Young People"  

 

Greg Popcak, MSW, LSCW.  Beyond the Birds and the Bees.  (BOOK) (Recommended by CA)

 

Fr. Vernon Sattler. Challenging Children to Chastity: A Parental Guide (Read online at EWTN library or at Amazon.com)

 

James Stenson.   "Preparing for Peer Pressure: A Guide for Parent's of Young Children" (Read online at EWTN Library or as Book at Amazon.com)

 

Steve Wood.  Principles for Sane and Safe Sex Education. (CD)  (Recommended by FLC)

 

 

 

 

 

PARENTS: MATERIALS TO USE FOR TEACHING YOUR CHILDREN

Materials to be used for teaching children

about chastity and the specific details of human sexuality. 

 

Catherine and Bernard Scherrer. "The Joyful Mysteries of Life"  (Recommended by CHC, MTH, IP)

 

Fr. Henry  Sattler. Parents, Children, and the Facts of Life (Recommended by SEM, FLC, the only recommendation of Steve Wood of FLC) (Read online in the EWTN library)

 

Samuel Cardinal Stritch.  Listen Son: Twelve Heart to Heart Talks of a Father to His Son on the Facts of Life. Twelve discussions divided by appropriate age : 9-12, 12-14, 14-16. (Read online in EWTN library) (Recommended by SEM)

 

Samuel Cardinal Stritch.  Mother's Little Helper: Twelve Heart to Heart Talks of a Mother and Her  Daughter on the Facts of Life.

Twelve discussions divided by appropriate age : 9-13, 13-15, 16-18 (Read online  EWTN library) (Recommended by SEM)

 

Dr. Colleen Kelly Mast.  Love and Life.   Student , Teacher, and Parent books.  A full curriculum that can be used at home or in a school, based on teachings from official Church documents" (Recommended by CHC)

 

Couple to Couple League. New Corinthians Curriculum. and Parent-to-Child Instruction on Human Sexuality  K-8 curriculum that can be used in school or at home.  Integrates faith and virtue formation with teaching about the facts of life.  No longer in print, but can be found used online.  Article about curriculum.

 

Dr. Richard Wetzel. Sexual Wisdom for Catholic Adolescents: A Home Based Course for Older Catholic Adolescents   Book may be downloaded for free. Books available for as low as $2.00 each to schools and parishes.

 

 

 

 

 

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FOR TEENS AND YOUNG ADULTS

(Don't just give them to you child. Read them yourself!)

While these materials aren’t specifically about the “facts of life”, they address matters of chastity, virtue, dating, etc.

 

Chastity.com Preeminent chastity web site for Catholic teens and young adults, hosted by Jason Evert.  Loads of questions and answers, resource library, etc.

 

Catholic Answers Chastity Resources

 

Ascension Press Chastity Resources

 

Jason and Crystalina Evert and Brian Butler.  Theology of the Body for Teens: High School Edition.  Student book, teacher guide, parent guide, DVD's. (Recommended by MTH, CA, EWTN, OFW, ASC)  (Also available for download in EWTN audio library.)

 

Brian Butler, Jason Evert, Colin and Aimee MacIver.  Theology of the Body for Teens: Middle School Edition. Student book, teacher guide, parent guide, DVD's. (Recommended by MTH, CA,OFW, ASC)

 

Christopher West. Freedom to Love.  Theology of the Body in a 5-part DVD series for young adults and college students.   (ASC)

 

Jason and Crystalina Evert

 

Jason Evert.

 If You Really Loved Me: 100 Questions On Dating, Relationships, And Sexual Purity - NEW - Revised and Expanded Edition  (CA)

Pure Love

Pure Manhood

 

Crystalina Evert.  Pure Womanhood. (Recommended by CA)

 

Jason and Crystalina Evert. 

Theology of His Body/Her Body  (ASC, CA))

How to Find Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul (CA)

                The Pure Life (AUDIO downloads from EWTN TV series)

 

For more titles by Jason and Crystalina Evert do a search at  Ascension Press and Catholic Answers.

 

Mary Beth Bonacci.  Real Love.  (OFW, IP)

 

ENDOW: True Beauty Educates young highschool women about their authentic femininity using a small group setting and study guide based on Pope John Paul II's writings regarding the "new feminism", Sacred Scripture, the Catechism of the Catholic Church, and other contributions from Catholic thinkers, philosophers, and saints.

 

Kimberly Hahn.  Dating & Courtship. CD's.

 

Joshua Harris.  I Kissed Dating Goodbye: A New Attitude Toward Romance and Relationships  Non-denominational, bible-based approach with remarkable insights allowing young people to rethink the mindless conviction that everyone needs a boyfriend or a girlfriend.  (Recommended by FLC, MTH, MW)

Harris, Joshua.  "The Seven Habits of Highly Defective Dating"  An excerpt from I Kissed Dating Goodbye.

 

Alissa Quart. Branded: The Buying and Selling of Teenagers

 

Teresa Tomeo, Molly Miller, Monica Cops, and Cheryl Dickow. All Things Girl: Truth for Teens. (Recommended by CHC, EWTN)

 

Fr. Gerald Kelly.  Chastity: A Guide for Teens and Young Adults.

First published in 1941, full of timeless wisdom.   (May read online or purchase used booklet)

 

Fr. Thomas G. Morrow.   Christian Courtship in an Oversexed World.   Better suited for college and young adult, but teens can glean much from this book.  (Caution: Chapter 14 is best reserved for someone who is engaged and very close to marriage.) (Recommended by MH, MW)

 

Fr. Frank E. Papa, S.O.L.T., JCD.  Love, Dating, and Marriage : A Marriage Preparation Guide  (Recommended by MTH)

 

The Rebelution.  A Modesty Survey. A 148 question survey of 1600 Christian guys; gives great insight into how women’s dress affects men.

 

Christopher West. 

Theology of the Body for Beginners;

The Good News about Sex and Marriage. (Recommended by CHC, MTH, EB, CA)

 

Dr. Richard Wetzel.

Sexual Wisdom for Catholic Adolescents: A Home Based Course for Older Catholic Adolescents   Book may be downloaded for free. Books available for as low as $2.00 each to schools and parishes.

 

Stephen Wood.

 The ABC's of Choosing a Good Husband (Recommended by FLC, MTH, CA, EWTN)

The ABC's of Choosing a Good Wife. (Recommended by FLC, MTH, CA, EWTN)

(Suggestion:  Read before beginning dating and make list of nonnegotiable qualities for spouse, desired qualities, and "red lights" for which you'd not marry someone. Then only date people who have the required qualities with no red lights.) 

 

Katrina Zeno.    Dating, Romance and God: Recipe for Disaster or Success?  (DVD or CD) (OFW)

 

 

 

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CONFERENCES/RETREATS FOR TEENS AND YOUNG ADULTS

 

Franciscan University of Steubenville Summer Youth Conferences (Register Early!)

 

Youth 2000  Retreats  Video

 

Eagle Eye Ministries.  Opportunities to go deeper in faith for teens 16-19 and young adults.

 

 

 

FOR YOUNGER CHILDREN

 

Books:

 

Jennie Bishop.  (YouTube interview of author)

The Princess and the Kiss: A Story of God's Gift of Purity  (for girls) Ages 6-12. (Recommended by FLC, MTH, CA)

Life Lessons from the Princess and the Kiss

The Squire and the Scroll: A Tale of the Rewards of a Pure Heart (for boys) Ages 6-12. (Recommended by FLC, MTH, CA)

Life Lessons from the Squire and the Scroll

 

Regina Doman.  Angel in the Waters. "In its Mother's womb, a tiny baby grows, explores the waters, and talks with the angel who is there" (SEM). Read the book online.  (Recommended by SEM, CA)

 

Joan Lowery Nixon. Before You Were Born, by Ages 3-6.

 

Gale Crush. Baby Margaret Mary: My Journey to Birth. "A gentle, loving booklet that shows the development of the unborn child week by week through birth." 5th grade and up. (Recommended by CHC.)

 

Teresa Tomeo, Molly Miller, Monica Cops, and Cheryl Dickow..  All Things Girl series  (EWTN)

For "tween" girls. Simple truths from John Paul II's Theology of the Body and Mulieris Dignitatem are used to develop virtues amidst every young girl's concern for fashion, beauty, and friends. For girls 9-13.   All books may be ordered by phone.  See all products and more at All Things Girl website.

Girls Rock

Modern and Modest

Mind Your Manners

Mirror, Mirror on the Wall...What is Beauty After All

Friends, Boys, and Getting Along

All Things Girl.  EWTN TV series on EWTN

 

Teresa Tomeo, Molly Miller, Monica Cops, and Cheryl Dickow. (EWTN)

 All Things Guy: A Guide to Becoming a Man that Matters.  (boys 9-13)

A Field Guide for Guys.

 

ENDOW:  Girl Genius  Girl Genius study guide helps girls in grades 6-8 better understand their nature, dignity and special role in society.

 

 

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MEDIA

(Movies, TV, music, games)

 

Plugged In Online  Reviews of film, music, television, and games. From Focus on the Family, a well-known evangelical  Christian organization.  Offers Movie Night study guides for families to thoughtfully view and discuss worthy films.

 

Focus on the Family.  “Protecting Your Family”  Several articles dealing with technology and media consumption.

 

Movie Reviews

Decent Films Guide  Online home of the film writing of Steven D. Greydanus, who is film critic for the National Catholic Register.  Reviews and helpful ratings.  Great search feature.

Steve Greydanus. "What are the Decent Films?:   Entertainment, Art, and Culture in Church Teaching" (article)

Catholic News Service reviews  (replaces the old USCCB ratings)

 

MovieGuide: Family Guide to Movies and Entertainment  Christian movie reviews.

 

Kids in Mind Specifically geared for parents seeking to determine if a film is appropriate for their children.  Gives details and a score for content regarding sex/nudity, violence/gore, and profanity.  No particular religious perspective.

 

Screen It. Detailed information on problematic content in films.  Requires subscription.

 

USCCB ratings  (no longer being updated)

 

Music Comparison Charts:  If your teen (or you!) like a particular secular artist, what Christian artist is he/she likely to enjoy?

 

Group's Contemporary Christian Music Chart

 

"Who Sounds Like Who?" Comparison page 1 page 2

 

Extreme Youth Christian Music Comparision

Taken from I Don't Listen to the Lyrics by Phil Chalmers  copyright 2002

 

Secular- Christian Music Comparison Chart

 

High quality films:

Ignatius Press Films page Offers hundreds of quality films, some with overtly spiritual content, but many that just represent fine art with quality moral messages.  Use their movie list as a resource for choosing which films to watch.

 

Vision Video: Catholic Family Video   A plethora of videos for Catholic families.   Includes quality movies for young families, such as Veggie Tales NEST Series, Book of Virtues series

 

The Vatican Film List  Includes a link to a review of each of the 45 "important films: selected  by an assembly of the Pontifical Commission for Social Communications in 1995.

 

Search DecentFilms.com for high quality movies according to the whatever criterion (age appropriateness, genre, rating, year released)  that you want to set for them.

For example, check out these 282 films that Steve Greydanus with a Overall Recommendability Rating of A(Highly Recommended) or these 33 films he rated with a Moral/Spiritual Rating of +4(feast for the spirit)

 

 

 

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TECHNOLOGY

(Internet, Cell Phones, etc.)

 

Covenant Eyes.  Parenting the Internet Generation E-book  (Excellent 28 page downloadable booklet) Covers cyberbullying, gaming, pornography, online predators, sexting, social networking, YouTube, and how to develop online integrity.

 

Covenant Eyes.  “A Parent’s Guide to Protecting Kids on YouTube”

 

Focus on the Family.  “Protecting Your Family”  Several articles dealing with technology and media consumption.

 

Pure Hope: Providing Christian Solutions in a Sexualized Culture

Packed with resources to protect yourself and your children in the use of the technology, including information about internet filters,

Pure Parenting

Pure Hope Blog

 

Internet Filters

Covenant Eyes  Solution for protecting your family when on the internet.

Safe Eyes Solution for protecting your family when on the internet.

Internet Filter Review

 

Dads.org, St. Joseph Covenant Keepers. "Parental Control & Monitoring; reviews on movies, TV, games, music and Internet Filters" From one of America's largest associations of Catholic men.

 

 

 

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WEBSITES WITH MULTIPLE RESOURCES

 

 

BEST OF THE BEST:

 

Catholic Answers.  Search for articles on just about anything regarding Catholic teaching.  Shop from a great selection of materials in the "Chastity" and "Youth and Young Adult"

 

Catholic Education Resource Center:  An extraordinary collection of articles from outstanding writers from around the world on just about every topic from a Catholic perspective.  May explore designated categories like Sexuality and Parenting or try a search on topics like "Chastity", "Modesty", "Dating", "Sex Education", "Teens", "Children", etc. 

 

Chastity.com. Jason and Crystalina Evert.  Primarily geared toward teens, but terrific parent resource, too.  Great Q & A section and "Audio/Video Vault" with free resources. (MTH)  Great links page.

 

 

OTHER GREAT SITES:

 

Catholic Faith Alive  Featuring Fr. Thomas Morrow and his extensive work with teens and young adults

 

Catholic Parents Online

 

Courage The pre-eminent Catholic ministry, endorsed by the Holy See,  for those with same-sex attractions and those who love them.  Loads of articles and links. 

 

Christopher West. Prominent teacher of the Theology of the Body.  Lots of articles. (MTH)

 

EWTN: Library. A plethora of material in one place:   Church teaching, C hurch fathers, John Paul II, popular current speakers, entire texts of timeless booklets. Search for key words like "chastity", "sex", or "dating".  Check the Library Indices link at to find links to whole categories or articles like "Family Life","Youth", "Encyclicals" and more.

 

Family Life Center Articles, resources, valuable links.  See "Parenting Teens" and "Courtship" and "Articles".  Also go to  "Store" and check "Parenting", "Sex Education", "Children", "Teenagers", and  "Young Adults and Singles".

 

Real Love. Mary Beth Bonacci. Lots of articles.

 

Sex Respect. Colleen Kelly Mast.   Abstinence education for both secular and faith based settings.

 

St. Joseph's Covenant Keepers.   Large associations of Catholic men.  Check out their pages on  "Sex Education",  "Catholic Pornography Help", "Parental Control and Monitoring", "Homosexuality"

 

Theology of the Body Institute Exists to promote the revolutionary teaching of Pope John Paul II on the divine meaning of the human body and human sexuality.  Lots of resources.

 

 

 

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MORE EXHAUSTIVE RESOURCE LISTS and PRODUCT SOURCES

 

Ascension Press.  Lots of resources on the Theology of the Body, with several DVD's and materials for group study for those from middle school through adulthood.   Books, Pamphlet Series.  Talks (CD), DVD series

 

Catholic Heritage Curricula. Sexuality page

 

EWTN Religious Catalog

Children's section: Loads of books on the saints and the sacraments, etc.

Teens/Young Adults section

Children's Multimedia section:

Marriage section

Morals section

 

EWTN Audio Library: Includes many of the EWTN TV shows in audio form.  Try searching for key words like "Chastity", "Purity"

 

EWTN Document Library:  Includes church teaching, Church fathers, timeless wisdom from past writers, and modern authors addressing current challenges.

Do a search using the Library pop-up item of  "Youth"

Or do a "Keyword" search for "Chastity", "Dating", "Teens" , "Sex Education", "Parenting",  etc.

 

Emmanuel Books. Purity page

 

Family Life Center International: Faith and Family

Courtship page

Children page in store.

Sex Education page in store.

Teenagers page in store.

Young Adults and Singles in store.

 

Fr. John Riccardo. "Marriage and Sexuality Bibliography"

 

Ignatius Press

Teen/Children Offers a treasury of quality reading for Catholic children.  Great source for fiction titles.

 

Our Father's Will Communications Terrific source for books, videos, etc. on Theology of the Body, chastity, etc.

YouTube Channel.  Featuriing Christopher West and more.

 

Seton Educational Media.  Family Resources page

 

 

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Compiled by Mary Wagner.

Offered as a supplement to Fullest Access: Catholicism , a syllabus for the study of the Catholic faith.

Suggestions and corrections welcome by e-mail.

 

Last updated August 25, 2012